Sunday, October 09, 2016

Your priest can't control the noisy babies so give him a break

After Mass a person approached our pastor and complained about the noisy kids and babies. I wanted to ask "What do you want Fr. to do? Should he stop Mass and offer to spank them all?" Some of the things people ask priests are really unreasonable.  Normal human beings are simply hard wired to notice  to the sounds babies make. I can hear a baby coo in a noisy room or at work.  I ignore anger cries but if it is the distinct fear cry I will go and peep to see what's wrong. Yes, the little kid banging his metal truck on the pew can be maddening. The big kid playing video games is obnoxious and hapless the man who   who keeps getting up and down with his little one, dragging toys, blankets and sippy cups behind him while stepping all over you is enough to make you want to say something spicy and uncharitable but here are things you can do to minimize the noisy tot problem. You can ignore it and offer it up.  A friend of Rocky's uses ear plugs at Mass, others simply avoid the Family Mass. There are others who concentrate on the missal and throw themselves so deeply into prayer that they hear nothing. I have been known to switch pews.  You wouldn't dare go up to a woman and tell her to "Shut that kid up," so why demand that poor Father do so?








*Note to young parents: the people frowning at you at church are not necessarily annoyed by you and your offspring. They heard a panic cry and are instinctively reacting to it.

3 comments:

Hans Georg Lundahl said...

"The big kid playing video games is obnoxious and hapless the man who who keeps getting up and down with his little one, dragging toys, blankets and sippy cups behind him while stepping all over you is enough to make you want to say something spicy and uncharitable."

Some homeless are dealing with even more maddening things.

Theoretically, after being thrown out from one place, and settling in another, I could have had 7 hours of sleep between 23:13 and 6:13. Somehow someone just had to use the night hours to bring out garbage, another one came and phoned outside the porch begging someone inside for money, while he still had 60 € left, that was probably after midnight. And I was woken up by cars at least an hour before looking at the time of a car ticket machine and seeing 6:13.

If you think you can rely on what black people in France are saying about me, note that the guys up to when I did get sleep were mostly black, those who weren't were not long before actually entering.

It seems the black community over here has "a horn in the side for me", as the Swedish saying goes.

Anita Moore said...

What Father could do something about, though, is the adults carrying on loud, frivolous conversations in church while others -- who do not possess the gift of concentration in prayer -- are trying to pray. In some places, the priests themselves are some of the worst offenders.

Sal Sal said...

I really try to pray for the child and parent. Kids are noisy and can be so at inopportune times, its truth. I agree with you 100% about why we react; it's very hard to defeat the hardwiring.

However I'm in the camp that elected to go to a different mass. Myself I drew the line at getting kicked in the head, literally, by a young kid who was a bit too rambunctious in the pew. I bore him nor his parents any ill will but realized that praying could be hard under the best conditions but this was something else entirely.