Saturday, April 24, 2010

Random thoughts on love, sex, and other stuff

  • A local young woman and her three year old daughter were murdered recently by her boyfriend. He had no fixed address, frequented homeless shelters and when he wasn't in the shelter he lived with friends. He was completely unsuitable for any kind of relationship but the poor woman brought him into her life and loved him until he got dangerous and then it was too late. Why do so many women have so little love or respect for themselves and thier helpless kids that they gravitate towards the worst possible man? Single motherhood by choice, as opposed to widows or women who had to get divorced, is celebrated by Hollywood but it's not a good thing for the kids (if a child is abused or killed the villain is most likely to be mom's new man), and it's not a good situation for the women either.

  • Speaking of unsuitable men, I had a disturbing few mintues with one on the elevator of my building. I got on and there was a man from a Muslim country on there. No biggie. Living so close to DC we have people from all over the world and both Catholic Charities and the Episcopalians bring refugees to the area all the time. He looked at me and backed into the corner. He caught his breath and twitched, he sweated and looked away. The man was clearly upset by me.

    I'm a librarian and I was on my way to work so you can guess how I was dressed. Heck, I was wearing an ankle length skirt but he could see my face, my hair, my neck and my hands and that had him looking just like Spock in the Amok Time episode. The thought popped into my head, 'This dude must have just got off the plane,' and I just about leapt out when the elevator door opened. A man who reacts to being alone in an elevator with a woman like that isn't ready to be in the modern world. Why the hell does our government allow immigration from countries where the men are like this?


  • I wanted to go to the Tridentine Mass at the Immaculate Conception Basilica today but stuff has come up so I won't be able to make it. Grrrrr. But Rocky and I are going on a mini pilgrimage to the St. Rita Shrine in Philadelphia next week.


  • My mother and I were talking about all the teachers who have been caught having sex with their students. Mama pointed out that this is not new. It's always gone on but before the 24 hour news cycle nobody outside a few knew about it. She told me about Mr. X, a teacher she had in high school. There was something about Mr. X that made her wonder about him. She couldn't express it but something about him wasn't right. She graduated in 1961. In 1962, her brother called her up on the phone and said, "They finally got Mr. X." Mama's reaction was to ask what he meant. My uncle explained that Mr. X had been caught with a boy from school. He was fired and left town. The principal did not want the white school board to know about it (SC was segregated back then) and the family did not want to be shamed in the community (most people beleived that homosexuality was something that only white men did), so nothing involving legal prosecution was done. Nobody remembers or will tell what happened to the teenaged boys Mr. X was "dating" and nobody knows where Mr. X ended up.


  • Why do so many dissident Catholics hang around? If they hate the Church so much you'd think they'd leave and start their own little cult but they don't. They stick to the Church like leeches in a pond transmitting poison as they cling.

15 comments:

Old Bob said...

Hi, Dymphna. This is very good stuff, especially the paragraph about the half-baked Catholics. I too wish they'd just go away. But they're like parasites that kill the host they feed on. We know they can't kill the Church because our Lord promised it would last till the end of the world, but all the same, I wish they'd just go away. Thanks for all your posts!

Kim B said...

I must say, your perspectives are far less compassionate than judgmental - especially toward the man on the elevator and the women who find themselves sadly in abusive relationships and those with children involved. It may not be the right thing to have children outside of a stable, loving, and Christ filled marriage. And it may not be the right thing to treat women as less-than or shield them from the world with robes and facial coverings. But it also isn't the right thing to refer to these people as "unsuitable." We should love them as Christ would and show them a better way. Judging them will only turn them off to Christians and the church, rather than spark an interest in living a Christ centered life. Whether your intentions are to pass judgment or not, this entry was riddled with those attitudes. And if your feelings were just poorly articulated so as to seem judgmental when your heart is not, well then I might suggest readjusting your approach to discussing these topics in the future.

Kim B said...

Oh and another thing, rather than wish fallen-away Catholics would go away...let's pray that they will see the light.

Anita Moore said...

Kim B: I must say, your perspectives are a recipe for moral impotence.

Dymphna said...

KimB if you'd stood on the elevator with that twitchy beady eyed man you'd know what I mean. As for the unsuitable, yeah. A guy who lives in shelters and goes from couch to couch is not a good choice for a spouse.

steve said...

your perspectives are a recipe for moral impotence.

This is awesome. I'm filing it away for future use.

LarryD said...

Dymphna - the dissidents don't leave because the Church has all the copiers.

At least, that's what Sr Joan Chittister once said.

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Kim B said...

Really Anita? Enlighten me. Since apparently you are under the impression that judging others is appropriate to leading a life free of "moral impotence." I would love to hear more about this.

John said...
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John said...

If you can have no compassion or forgiveness for a man from a country that oppresses women, a mother who wrongly clings to an abuser, a catholic who has lost their way, or a murderer, then you do not understand the teachings of Jesus Christ as his Catholic Church teaches them. People's sinful actions are deplorable, but they are all people and Jesus loves them just as he loves you and me.

Jesus would never say he wished a person would "go away." Instead, he would call them back to his loving arms and tell them to sin no more. I suggest you consider this the next time you witness sinful behavior. Hate the sin, not the sinner.

Restore-DC-Catholicism said...

John, do you judge Dymphna by admonishing her not to "hate the sinner"? And just how is a woman alone in the elevator with a strange-acting man supposed to be compassionate towards him? She was probably correctly sensing danger. If you have a scintilla of compassion towards a woman, you never ever tell her to disregard her instincts.
As far as dissident Catholics remaining in the church, many of them have made to secret that they remain because they want to change it into some horribly mutated organization other than what Christ wanted.

Sanctus Belle said...

Regarding your first comments on single motherhood - I heard this once from somewhere about the association between single motherhood and poverty:

"If your mother's boyfriend is not your father - chances are that you are poor"

How true a statement. BTW most single mothers get pregnant on purpose - especially teenagers.

Hans Georg Lundahl said...

"frequented homeless shelters"

I try to avoid them.

I try to avoid loosing sleep with men of which I don't quite respect all and of which some will wake one up just to yell "stop snoring" - or sleep fast because they drank or smoked has fast before arriving in the evening.

Hans Georg Lundahl said...

As for teachers, there was a time when such a culprit could have made amends honorables and married the pupil.

Nowadays both shrinks and legal marriage ages stop her from profiting from any possible such intention.