Saturday, February 15, 2014

Three pieces of marital advice for young wives

  1. Be kind to your husband. You'd think this would be obvious but American women are taught from our tenderest years to treat our men like idiots. We learn this from TV shows and commercials, movies, other women and pop literature. Not only is it considered okay to make one's husband the butt of every joke, but women will gang up on the young wife who does not have anything bad to say about her husband and tease her until she joins in.  It'll be hard to go against lifetime conditioning but be a rebel for Christ and fight it.

  2. Be prudent in managing your household affairs and remember that the wise woman builds her house while the foolish one tears hers down. One example of this is poor  Maureen McDonnell, former First Lady of Virginia. She's being accused of taking goodies from a businessman in exchange for political favors. Her husband apparently went along with this and they both may go to jail. When I read the indictment all I could think of was Madam Bovary. People consider Bovary  to be a romance but really, it was  Emma Bovary's business dealings that destroyed both her and her family.

  3. Go to Mass more than once a week, if you can. Go to Adoration if you have the opportunity. Pray the rosary and meditate on Our Lady.


Old Bob said...

Thanks, Dymphna! I think your advice is much needed these days, though you know far better than I do.
I left high school in 1962, and for the next twelve years had maybe half a dozen dates, because of work, school, and being always short of money.
When I got a good job in 1974, I was thirty, and I noticed that the "dating rules" and the overall culture had changed quite a lot.
I've been totally clueless ever since. About the only women I get along really well with are those over seventy.
Please keep up with your advice!

Mary Ann Kreitzer said...

Ah Dymphna, you illustrate the Biblical admonition that older women should instruct the younger. Young moms would do well to heed your good advice!

newguy40 said...

My wife of almost 25 years has been relentlessly kind to me for that entire period. Sick, tired, mourning, she has never stopped being kind to me even when I was much less kind to her. You post has been an opportunity recollect those facts. Thanks.

Did you add wives pray for your husbands? (And, the converse is equally needful).