Saturday, February 04, 2012


My uncle, as is often the case with dementia patients is refusing to eat or drink or take medication. When my mother and I visit, after hours of coaxing he will accept hand feeding or will sip from a straw if I hold it to his lips but thats not enough to keep him going. I can't let him starve so he's getting a feeding tube on Monday. I am so tired. I had hoped he'd be in the nursing home for a year or two before the food refusal stage started.


Old Bob said...

My heart is with you, Dymphna.

Dymphna said...

Thank you, Bob!

Lola said...

Your family is in my prayers.

You and your mother have been angels on earth to your uncle and some part of his spirit and soul knows this.

My mother used to work at a VA and a regular nursing home. She would sometimes share with me as I was growing up that towards the end of a person's life they might quit eating. She said the we still have a responsibility to give them nurishment as long as posible. Sometimes that nurishment comes through a feeding tube.

I saw this with my own grandfather and my Babcie. Food, even food they loved just didn't taste good to them anymore. My grandmother would get strange (to me) cravings. She loved Borscht! And after looking at the mushy food at the nursing home I realised why she lost her appetite.

I hope your uncle is given the best food and comes around to enjoying eating again.

I know you know this, but you are serving Christ, even if he is your uncle.

Mary Ann Kreitzer said...

Prayers for you, Dymphna. Dementia is so hard. I take Communion to several Alzheimers patients at a local nursing home. So hard to see that deterioration in those we love. May God shower you and your mom with grace.

Hans Georg Lundahl said...

I think, earlier, before feeding tubes, that was the stage when they were wont to die.