Thursday, March 06, 2008

Don't marry him!

Just because you are pregnant. Years ago couples did the shot gun wedding thing all the time. Sometimes it worked out. Usually it was a recipe for household hell. If you don't want your child to be a bastard don't have sex outside of wedlock.

Don't marry a last chance man. Women's fertility is finite. The feminists lied to you, sweetie. We bloom like roses and then decline. By the time you hit your 30s there aren't too many more shopping days until Christmas so to speak. Don't pick a man just because you want him to be a stud. Studs usually move on to other females and you may find that settling for a man because he's your last chance to be a mother is more than you ever bargained for. Besides, it's unfair to the man. You should marry a guy because he's the one, not because he's pleasant enough, has a job,is good with kids and has working parts.

Don't marry because you're lonely. Figure out why you are alone or embrace it but don't misuse the sacrament.

Don't marry for sex.


Joe of St. Thérèse said...

The Child has the right to both the Mother and the Father and being raised by them. Even though they should have not committed the act in the first place (the parents)..If there is to be a marriage with the person, it should be genuine, and not on the sole basis of an action. However, I'm of the opinion that they should be married. For the betterment of the Child. However, the Child should not be the oly eaason that they get married, as to that point, I totally agree :)

Benedicamus said...

There is ALWAYS adoption, too, if someone gets pregnant. Without that option, I might never have met my adopted husband. Thank God for the courage of his birth parents.

Hans Georg Lundahl said...

Marrying because one is lonely is per se not misusing the sacrament.

Marrying in order to have sex (if fertile!) is a thousand times better than infertile sex or than making children out of wedlock.

As to first, well, fact is this was done very much in the days previous to Roe vs Wade.

It was probably done more between then and back to when marital ages were at least in practise and sometimes even in law texts raised, than previous to that earlier date.