Tuesday, November 04, 2008

November 5, 2007

Nobody knew you

“Sorry about your loss dear, but you couldn’t have been very far along.”
Nobody knew you
“It’s not as though you lost an actual person.”…
were real
Nobody knew you
“Well it probably wasn’t a viable fetus. It’s all for the best.”
…were perfect.
Nobody knew you
“You can always have another!”
…were unique, our Dieudonn√©, and no, I probably can't.
Nobody knew you…but God


The Digital Hairshirt said...


A good friend just lost her baby at an early stage in the pregnancy. I have been through that 4 times myself.

They were actual persons, dammit. And each a unique human being.

standing maryanna said...

Very beautiful and poignant, Dymphna. I know what it means to lose a child...

Robert said...

God bless you.

Dymphna said...

Thanks, all.

Anonymous said...

I know how this feels, Dymphna. It's no clump of cells. We lost BABIES. For some reason, I've been thinking of my little one a lot. (My day of remembrance is, of all days, Valentine's Day.) When I saw your post, I started crying. I'm comforted by the thought that I finally get to meet my little one some day.

Sanctus Belle said...

I too lost one. I was worried about where the soul of my little boy went (I named him Benedict) since we could not have him baptized. I asked Our Lady for a sign and it was given with great love and rapidity! I bristle with irritation whenever I hear those who debate about the loss of the unbaptized - God's mercy is not limited by His own sacraments! I too look foward to seeing his face.

Lola said...

God Bless you Dymphna!

I know you didn't like the picture of St. Gianna, but when her beatification mass was said all of her children were listed in the vestments symbolized with roses and rosebuds.

It's hard, and my mother said you never forget, but that doesn't mean you will always have a heavy sadness.