Sunday, October 12, 2008

Please pray for my in-laws

This is difficult. When I got married 20 years ago my in-laws were not nice about it. They had an entirely different vision of the girl their son was supposed to marry. Big Daddy and Big Mama were thinking middle class and Baptist. Instead they got working class, Catholic me.

Big Daddy thought/hoped that when his kids did get married it would be Dallas. You know how J.R. and Bobby didn't go too far from Jock and Miss Ellie? They stayed in the same compound. You know how the Kennedy's don't seem to go too far from each other--(except for Jackie who wisely didn't let Caroline and John John hang with Teddy's kids)-- well that's what the Old Man was expecting. Instead Rocky and I got as far away as we could without leaving the state. Rocky's little brother, Clipper did much the same.

About five years ago Big Daddy apologized to me. He meant it. He's gotten used to me, and although it may still gall him that Rocky is Catholic he doesn't tell any priest jokes anymore. I think they're fond of me and I'm feel affection mixed with irritation for them.

They aren't doing so hot. The Old Man has high blood pressure, morbid fat, and diabetes and doesn't deal with any of it well. Big Mama is a teacher and this year has been constantly ill from various things she' s picked up from her kids and her kidneys function has slowed. It's a coporal work of mercy to visit the sick. It's a grace to be nice those who weren't always nice to you. I know this but oh, the ghost of the girl who had to put up with insults from her in-laws still lives in me and she'd be happy to forget and ignore. Please say a prayer for Rocky's folks.

Fr. Aragorn once said to me that Rocky's parents are part of the deal so get on with it. Buck up and do the right thing. He was right then and he's right now. So I'll get on with it and slouch towards Bethehem.

St. Elizabeth of Hungary, say a little prayer for me.

5 comments:

Joe of St. Thérèse said...

I shall remember them.

Simplex Vir said...

I have been in this same place myself Dymphna. It is exceedingly difficult to be nice when you have been slammed most of your life.

Your Priest's words however are to the point the ones meant to help your soul. So I will pray for your in-laws yes, but I will also say one for you.

Lola said...

I'll say a prayer for them and you.

BTW, one day when it's all a hundred years from now, you and your inlaws just might be hanging out with St. Elizabeth poolside.

The Digital Hairshirt said...

Dymphna, I was lucky to have a great mother-i-law, whom was taken from us too early (ovarian cancer). But that does not mean my husband's family doesn't cause me "oggida" (Sicilian for "acid" and a common expression heard growing up in NYC) at times. The important part? That you and Rocky, like my husband and I, are ONE and in it together!

And it soudns like you are!

Hans Georg Lundahl said...

Are your inlaws still Baptist?

Give them a look at this!