Saturday, December 04, 2010

How to make Christmas better

Drop the martyr routine. Seriously, everybody hates it. I was talking to a man the other day who groused about how nuts his wife gets in December. She's genuinely trying to give her family a perfect Christmas and ends up exhausted and grouchy and they always have a huge fight either on Christmas Eve or a few days before. He really wishes she'd chill out and doesn't appreciate her "show off" efforts because they just make everybody miserable. His wife is not a shrew. She's a nice woman who's trying to to live up the sick crazy train standard that other women create for women.

Ladies stop it. Get off the train. Your husband doesn't give a hoot about whether the tree is a Grandin Road original or came from an award winning tree farm. He doesn't want an exact replica of the White House tree. He really doesn't. You aren't Martha Stewart, heck. Martha isn't even Martha Stewart!She has servants and a magazine staff to make her mansions look beautiful. You aren't Jackie Kennedy, who had maids, and a nanny. You aren't your grandmother. You aren't your sister-in-law or your neighbor. You aren't that woman in the magazine. Stop it. Calm down. Jesus doesn't want you to freak out over the strudel. Remember what He said to St. Martha, "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." This year do something different. Be a rebel. Do less. Tell the secular world and it's unrealistic expectations to buzz off.


Kindred Spirit said...

Amen, Dymphna. People before things, people before things. And it helps to remember that Christmas doesn't begin until December 25, and it lasts until Epiphany. What is there to do that can't be done easily and peacefully within those twelve days?

Lola said...

Bravo and I'm linking to this posting on my "How to save $2000 this Christmas..."

God Bless you Dymphna, and a blessed Advent season to you and your family.

Oh, but just for a little craziness, what do you do for Christmas to make it special?

Dymphna said...

I like baking and make several cakes for this one beautiful season. We always manage to go somewhere that's decorated for Christmas. If we can't walk through Williamsburg we visit a light show in a park and we go to church more. It's little things but it's what I know I can handle.

patrice said...

Dymphna and the twelve days of cookies!